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Not gonna lie, I'm SOOOO happy that you're not a person who drank the NA/AA Koolaid. When I was in school for ChemDep, the divide between the 12 steppers and everyone else was ridiculous and it always seemed as though it was their way or the highway.

@malinspretentiousblog

malinspretentiousblog:

threelittlebiiirds:

I honestly thought I might get a lot of hell from former addicts and or AA/NA fans that might have seen me through the tags or whatever, so this is a refreshing surprise! To be honest, I have a lot of problems with AA/NA ideology and how it’s like a ‘one shoe fits all’ program. I think my biggest issue is their whole “once an addict, always an addict’ mantra; I find that a cruel monkey to hang on their backs for the rest of their life.

I could go on and on about NA but I’ll stop myself here ahaha. I’m also both happy and relieved to find another who feels similar — and I agree 100% in that it’s their way or the highway. Thanks so much for sharing with me! 

You’re absolutely correct in your observation. There’s been a huge upsurge in alternatives to 12 steps as of late, or perhaps it’s just that social media has made it more accessible because in reality, many of them have been around for quite some time.

I’ve often wondered about how a client might handle having to go through surgery and dealing with painkillers. I’ve not been at this long enough to have that particular situation arise yet, and methadone itself acted as a mild sedative, so those clients tended to already be in a state of painlessness. 

Regarding connections in group. Oh yes. Strange how that works. Though my clients seemed to talk more about hooking up with people and referred to it as a “13th step”.  They also told horror stories about cocaine anonymous. Apparently that’s a rather aggressive group. Wouldn’t have seen that coming lol.

SMART Recovery and SOS are two in particular that I personally find interesting in that they tend to focus more on self-empowerment and science-based research rather than taking a punitive approach.

Honestly though, if a person finds that AA/NA/ect works for them, then that’s great. Who am I to tell a client or anyone what helps them maintain sobriety? I am just the person to which they share their thoughts and feelings. Their progress does not depend on me. All I can do is attempt to steer them in the right direction to help themselves. The clients themselves are ultimately in control of their own sobriety, as unbelievable as it may seem to them sometimes.

I don’t know much about SMART recovery and SOS, though I do agree that if 12 steps works for a person, then that’s great. Whatever keeps them working toward their goals. 

My inlaws are all big into the “disease” aspect of the 12 Step, which I absolutely cannot stand and it frustrates me greatly. They would push it and I eventually had to make it clear that in our house [mine and my husband’s] we did not believe that shit and would not use that idea in regards to my husband’s sobriety. Thankfully, the point was gotten across and there have been no issues since. 

And, speaking of more non 12 Step options, my father-in-law apparently hated this one rehab commercial where they guy says something like “I was an addict, and now I’m not”. I just don’t understand why he would want a monkey like that on his own son’s back for the rest of his life.

Bah, I’ve ranted about my inlaws and our differing ideologies, I apologize for that. But you are absolutely right — the client is in control, they are the ones making choices. And if they need some help or insight, it sounds like they have you there to provide it.

If you’re able and/or have the time, could you please brief me on what SMART Recovery and SOS are? 

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Italian Americans are invisible people. Not because people refuse to see them, but because, for the most part, they refuse to be seen. Italian Americans became invisible the moment they could pass themselves off as being white. And since then they have gone to great extremes to avoid being identified as anything but white, they have even hidden the history of being people of color.


Whether they like it or not, Italian Americans cannot escape the fact that they weren’t always white. They were lynched, burned out of homes, chased, captured and killed by vigilantes and the Ku Klux Klan. At the direction of politicians and businessmen, they were herded into ghettos and then redlined and relocated into acceptable neighborhoods. They were discriminated against by political, social, economic, and religious institutions. And in spite of sharing the experiences of other minorities, many of them have adopted the attitudes and stances of the dominant culture of racism, a culture that maintains control by dividing by difference and uniting by illusion of similarity. By becoming white, they have paid a price, and that price is the extinction of their culture.

Fred Gardaphé “Invisible People: Shadows and Light in Italian American Culture”

There are few things I hate more than when members of formerly oppressed groups turn their back on their fellow minorities and join the racist hegemony.

There was a time not too long ago when being Italian was not a good thing in the eyes of many “real” Americans. We were seen as sub-human criminals who could never be truly loyal Americans, in part because of our Catholicism, but also because of our non-Nordic blood. Prominent scientists wrote at length about the supremacy of Northern European blood and invented convoluted theories about how the Roman Empire was actually run by a bunch of lily-white, blond-haired, blue-eyed Nordics, and not us swarthy Mediterraneans, because God forbid they admit that someone with a tan invented the arch.

That’s why I get so pissed off at prominent Italian-American politicians like Antonin Scalia, Rick Santorum, Joe Arpaio, Tom Tancredo, John Barrasso, et al. Their regressive attitudes towards racial equality and the treatment of immigrants reveal an ignorance of their own history… a history that they could really stand to learn from.

(via recoveringhipster)

So many good points here and this is a conversation I’m thrilled to see happening. Also to be noted, at least from what I was taught in my bioanthro class [regarding race] — The US Census changed Italians and Greeks to “white” in order to keep “white” a majority in the US. Italians were definitely not “white” until the Census needed their white percentages higher. Fascinating stuff.

And outside the US, many do consider Italians to be people of color. But in America, for a combination of reasons, they are now part of the “white” racial category. It has stripped us of our culture. My grandma was told that she would no longer speak Italian, “you’re an American now, now you speak English.” None of us speak it now, and it’s a shame.

This isn’t articulated very well, and I apologize about that, but I’m always open for more discourse about this issue. Thanks so much for sharing this!

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Not gonna lie, I'm SOOOO happy that you're not a person who drank the NA/AA Koolaid. When I was in school for ChemDep, the divide between the 12 steppers and everyone else was ridiculous and it always seemed as though it was their way or the highway.

@malinspretentiousblog

malinspretentiousblog:

threelittlebiiirds:

I honestly thought I might get a lot of hell from former addicts and or AA/NA fans that might have seen me through the tags or whatever, so this is a refreshing surprise! To be honest, I have a lot of problems with AA/NA ideology and how it’s like a ‘one shoe fits all’ program. I think my biggest issue is their whole “once an addict, always an addict’ mantra; I find that a cruel monkey to hang on their backs for the rest of their life.

I could go on and on about NA but I’ll stop myself here ahaha. I’m also both happy and relieved to find another who feels similar — and I agree 100% in that it’s their way or the highway. Thanks so much for sharing with me! 

I was lucky in that the places I was trained as a counselor didn’t push the 12 step rules. Our program focuses on mindfulness and the SAMHSA Eight Dimensions of Wellness. We do a lot of meditation and grounding techniques and much of what we talk about is up to the client. It’s a small group too, so they’ve all gotten very close to each other. It just seems so much more refreshing than the negative energy surrounding some of the other meetings. Plus, with the population I’m working with, the “higher power” aspect of the AA/NA approach may do more harm than good, so we don’t push it on them. And I totally agree with you. Why would you want to enter a group that puts you in a frame of mind that you’re an addict for the rest of your life? Studies show that most people who go to treatment for drinking end up being able to get to a point at which they can, in fact, have a few drinks and not lose control. This isn’t the same for everyone, of course, but telling someone they will always be an addict and saying that the one slip up they had over the weekend means they have to start over is just punitive and wrong.

….See…now I’m getting all started up lol >.>

I might be wrong or only be seeing a tiny piece of the world of drug rehab/counselling, but it seems that lately more and more non-12 step options are prompting themselves. Unfortunately, when my husband [then boyfriend] went to rehab 5 or so years ago, it seemed like the ONLY options were ones that used the 12 steps. 

I also like how you mentioned that the group you’re working with sounds close-knit. While my husband go to meetings [which didn’t last too long, he mostly went to appease his family], which are far from a close-nit group, he’d come back with a way to get a hookup for more pills. NA was a cesspool of connections. And I also agree 100% that the concept of a “higher power” can do more harm than good; you phrased that perfectly. 

I recently asked my husband if a man in NA went to the ER with a kidney stone [horrific pain], if he would no longer be considered sober according to 12 step standards if he took the narcotic pain meds while in the hospital. He told he wouldn’t be considered sober and next time he went to a meeting he’d have to get the white chip. Yet another reason as to why I severely dislike NA ideology, just like you said about one slip-up. I feel there is a big, un-ignorable difference between medical intervention and drug use.

LOL  great now we’ve both gotten started. But I’m really glad to know there is someone else who feels similarly.

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Not gonna lie, I'm SOOOO happy that you're not a person who drank the NA/AA Koolaid. When I was in school for ChemDep, the divide between the 12 steppers and everyone else was ridiculous and it always seemed as though it was their way or the highway.

@malinspretentiousblog

I honestly thought I might get a lot of hell from former addicts and or AA/NA fans that might have seen me through the tags or whatever, so this is a refreshing surprise! To be honest, I have a lot of problems with AA/NA ideology and how it’s like a ‘one shoe fits all’ program. I think my biggest issue is their whole “once an addict, always an addict’ mantra; I find that a cruel monkey to hang on their backs for the rest of their life.

I could go on and on about NA but I’ll stop myself here ahaha. I’m also both happy and relieved to find another who feels similar — and I agree 100% in that it’s their way or the highway. Thanks so much for sharing with me! 

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luxlisbonisalive:

Is fainting a symptom of opiate withdrawal because that would explain a lot about the last 48 hours

I suppose that it could happen, but please please monitor your fainting and your blood pressure [even if you just pop into a grocery store or pharmacy, if you have the means to do so]. I personally have never heard nor seen fainting as a withdraw symptom, but if it keeps happening and gets worse, I suggest you call a doctor — and if you don’t want to do that, remember there are nurse hotlines!

If you’ve been off the drugs for some time and your tolerance has gone down and you’ve recently did some [even a little], that might have also been the cause. Opiates lower one’s blood pressure.

It could be a just a dizzy spell, or simply a random moment for the body [lord knows our bodies can be strange] but stay self aware and stay safe!

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I find that this incident with heart-nakama has left me really disappointed with the One Piece community. Rape jokes aren't funny. I think everyone involved, heart-nakama included, are in the wrong. Yeah, they made a bad joke, but, aren't we just as bad for ripping into them for it? Yes rape, and online hate are two different things, but, at the end of the day, it all results in the same thing: pain. Everyone involved in the matter here is in the wrong, and should apologize. Everyone.

@Anónimo

I agree with your sentiments. Everyone can understand why some could be hurt by the ask/response that had been posted. It has since been removed, and had been removed before the mass post was made [correct me if I’m wrong, of course]. The mass post only exposed more people to potenital offense and hurt, and that post - made to be mass reblogged - is not an effective or helpful response. I’ve written on this a couple of times now, so I won’t bore you with my reasons haha! 

Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has said something about a sensitive topic that could offend or hurt. No one is innocent, and we’re all learning. Humiliation, bullying, or calling for everyone in a community to single one out is not helpful for any — including the community and the societal issue.

I respect that not all will agree with my reasoning for thinking that the methods taken aren’t right, although I find it undeniable that it clearly lends itself well to bullying.

If this were a repeated offense, it would be a different story. But this was one incident. We all make mistakes. Give one time to learn from it before making a post encouraging others to unfollow or, as Tumblr is famous for doing, bully them.

Thank you for taking the time to message and talk with me! 

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I'm sorry the one piece community has turned on you, it isn't fair that you be ostracised for a single off handed comment. Everything I have seen from the not short time I've followed you tells me you are a good person. If you need someone to talk to. About one piece, about your day or about social-justice-hypocrites, feel free to drop me an ask. Connor.

@cynicysmbyconnor

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curiosity-of-pandora:

marincolosseo:

heart-nakama-deactivated2014082:

Thanks man, it’s just one joke, people take things too seriously. I know rape is a serious issue, but I’m too much of a dumbass to not joke about it. Of course I care about victims of sexual assault, I don’t promote it, I joke about it. People have different humours, mine is just on a level where only a few get it.

I should’ve just kept my mouth shut. I am sorry, but in this world sorry doesn’t make up for anything. I wish I can take that joke back but no. Too late, people took it to seriously. N I’m just done. I’m an idiot with no place in this world. No one gets me, no one understands me. I know I can’t please everyone, I know not everyone will understand me. I have a dark humor, and no one likes that.
I don’t know what can make up for it.

I’m not sad about this joke and people taking this too far, I’m sad that I can’t be myself anywhere and sad that I don’t belong anywhere. Even on the internet.
Good bye world.

If you cared about victims of rape/sexual assault you would not be making rape jokes because when you joke about it you do promote it. You are telling rapists and rapists-to-be that rape is funny and that what they have done or are planning to do is just fine with you. Calling it your brand of humour does not excuse it. Putting yourself down for sympathy does not excuse it. This is not about people “not understanding” you, this is about how you are being harmful and how you have STILL failed to realise that what would “make up for it”, even just a little bit, would be apologising for what you said.

It is not just one joke, it’s an entire culture that you are contributing to and I really, really wish you could see this.

Passing off a rape joke as a “dark sense of humour” and “being yourself” just emphasizes to me how fucked up your view of rape and sexual assault is and how glad I am that a lot of the OP fandom is having none of this shit.

You don’t feel comfortable on the internet now because you made a rape joke? Well too fucking bad because when you make rape jokes, I have flashbacks and want to die.  And you think that’s such a funny, funny thing and consider people dumbasses for taking a serious crime seriously.  If you “cared” about victims of sexual violence, you wouldn’t fucking joke about the horror that we went through.  Cry me a fucking river.

Heart-nakama, you are a disgusting person and deserve to be treated as such.
It is about time someone has shoved a slice of reality pie down your vile gullet.

I am sorry, but this has gone too god damn far. I don’t even KNOW heart-nakama but this beyond ridiculous. I suppose not a single one of you have EVER said anything potentially offensive or hurtful before, right? I suppose that’s the case.

Instead of simply unfollowing the person whom you were hurt by and send a simple message expressing your hurt, you instead bully said person.

No. NONE of you are helping the issue of rape, sexual assault and sexually harassment within our culture. This is not the way to go about this issue. A “disgusting person” and “vile “gullet”? Are you fucking kidding me right now?

I feel secondhand embarrassment for every person involved — yes, that also means the two bloggers who said something problematic. But this method is so far from the right, mature way to handle the situation and I’ve already explained why in two posts, which I encourage anyone who wants to respond to this to read before doing so.

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(No need to post this, is just for informing) I tried to explain the issue to heart-nakama, but she explicitly said that she just likes dark humor. She overall does not feel concern on people who suffered from this. So no use educating them, she thinks is ok to joke about it.

@Anónimo

I really hope you don’t mind me posting this, and if you’d like I will happily delete it without question. I appreciate you taking the time to come to me and provide another viewpoint, as well as your own experience. You did so in a very kind way and that is also appreciated [as we know, Tumblr is sometimes not-so-kind].

I absolutely understand where you are coming from. Truly — those aren’t empty words. It’s not the issue at hand that I disagree with, it’s simply the methods in which were used to address said issue.

I think it’s also important to remember that Tumblr, a social blogging site, is far from a ‘safe space’, for lack of a better phrase. That’s not to say that bloggers get a free pass, but it is an important aspect to consider before creating a post singling out two people for one post. 

I feel that those who were hurt [and I certainly understand why some followers would have been!] could have simply unfollowed the aforementioned bloggers. A simple unfollow would have removed the offense from the offended, and the issue would thus be solved. 

However, instead a post was made with the intent of mass reblogging. It brought attention to a post that had since been deleted — it spread the post to a larger audience, and thus potentially hurt more people than it ever needed to in the first place.

The method used — that of a post that was intended to be massively reblogged — was not only ineffective in ways mentioned before, but also has very high potential to create a witch hunt of sorts. Although the OP asked for no hate to be sent to the two bloggers, we all know that would ultimately happen. 

Also, the OP states that regardless of how the two bloggers responded to the asks that were sent, a mass post was still being made. I find this curious, and I believe it only backs up my past points. Of course it is 100% possible that I misunderstood the OP, in which case I apologize for misinterpretation. 

Thank you again for your message!

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